Creating a Co-parenting Plan
After you and your child’s other parent split up romantically, your relationship as co-parents lives on. How well that works out is up to both of you. It will require intention, compromise, thoughtfulness, and focus on the right things. Establishing a parenting plan can provide you with a blueprint for success.
Many local court systems offer divorcing parent coaching programs which will walk you through the basics. There are also many highly qualified co-parenting coaches, mediators, and divorce attorneys who can guide you through the process. However you decide to proceed with laying out your co-parenting plan, be sure to incorporate these principles as you create it:
Bright Spot In Texas’s Legislative Session
The 87th Texas Legislature heard a few bills to change the outdated custody laws that affect families in the Lone Star State. To address this issue, Texas House Bill 803 was introduced to the state legislature on April 26th, 2021. This bill has been called the “equal parenting bill” or “shared parenting bill” because it proposes 50/50 custody as a part of family law reform. Parents all over the state were lending full support to this piece of legislation because they want more time with their children. After many hours of testimony from parents all over the state, the bill died in committee. Even though HB 803 didn’t pass, we did see a huge bright spot in family law reform. One such bright spot was Senate Bill 1936.
Family Reunion’s 2021 President’s Award Given to NPO’s Don Hubin
Earlier this month, I received an extremely pleasant surprise in the mail. I opened a small package, not knowing what was inside, and found that the Family Reunion organization has awarded me its 2021 President’s Award in “recognition of [my] diligent and tireless effort in bringing public awareness to the importance of shared parenting for the benefit of children and for your advocacy to achieve legislative changes.”
Researcher Examines How Inequality in the Court System Impacts Corporations
New research is being conducted that will uncover the impact that inequality in the United States Family Court System and child custody laws have on corporations. As a shared parenting advocacy nonprofit, the National Parents Organization (NPO) supports this research effort and ongoing studies to shed light on these issues that are plaguing families, communities, and corporations nationwide.
“Inequality in the family court system is a bigger issue that people realize. This is truly a human rights issue,” said Casey Sowers, the lead researcher for this study.
Sowers is the Executive Director of The Fathers’ Rights Movement and also a doctoral candidate at Florida International University’s Chapman Graduate School of Business. NPO spoke with him to learn more about his research.
New Jersey polling results show tremendous support for equal shared parenting
A recent National Parents Organization (NPO) independently commissioned poll shows overwhelming support for shared parenting in New Jersey. In the latest round of polling, 95% of New Jersey respondents believe it is in the child's best interest to have as much time as possible with each parent in cases of separation or divorce. New Jersey boasts some of the highest percentages of all states that support equal shared parenting. These results are especially timely as the New Jersey State Legislature looks at current proposed legislation, Bill A1812, that would create an equal shared parenting law.
Polling results in New York show overwhelming support for equal shared parenting
The most recent round of National Parents Organization (NPO) shared parenting polling shows overwhelming support for shared parenting in New York. In fact, 92% of those who were polled in New York believe it is in the child's best interest to have as much time as possible with each parent in cases of separation or divorce.
Recent polling results show Georgia voters support equal shared parenting
The most recent round of National Parents Organization (NPO) shared parenting polling, in coordination with United Georgia Families, shows overwhelming support for shared parenting in Georgia. According to the research, 92% of those who were polled in Georgia believe it is in the child's best interest to have as much time as possible with each parent in cases of separation or divorce.
Recent poll of Washington residents shows tremendous support for shared parenting
The most recent round of National Parents Organization (NPO) shared parenting polling in Washington shows overwhelming and wide-ranging support for shared parenting in the state. Ninety-five percent of those who were polled in Washington believe it is in the child's best interest to have as much time as possible with each parent in cases of separation or divorce.
West Virginians show overwhelming support for shared parenting, according to recent poll
The most recent round of National Parents Organization (NPO) shared parenting polling shows overwhelming support for shared parenting in West Virginia. According to this groundbreaking research in the state of West Virginia, 97% of those who were polled believe it is in the child's best interest to have as much time as possible with each parent in cases of separation or divorce. In addition, a high percentage of those polled also admitted that they would be more likely to vote for a candidate who supported equal shared parenting.
Recent polling data shows overwhelming support for equal shared parenting in Connecticut
The most recent round of National Parents Organization (NPO) shared parenting polling shows that voters in Connecticut express overwhelming support for shared parenting. Ninety-six percent of those who were polled believe it is in the child's best interest to have as much time as possible with each parent in cases of separation or divorce. The majority of individuals polled are also willing to let this issue influence how they vote in elections.
What Americans Agree On: Shared Parenting
Forty years of research on child well-being has firmly established that, when parents are living apart, it is almost always best for children to spend equal time with each of their parents, assuming both are fit. (Some of the best of this research is highlighted on NPO’s website.) Despite this, in most states, legislators have been slow to enact laws that will protect children’s interests by ensuring both parents share equally in raising them.
If legislators won’t listen to the science, maybe they’ll listen to the people!
In Memoriam: Bruce Rogers
The shared parenting movement and National Parents Organization, in particular, have lost a valued fighter. On October 14, Bruce Rogers lost his more than two-year battle with glioblastoma, a form of brain cancer.
Children Need Both Parents: Ohio’s Equal Parenting Bill 2021
By Elizabeth McNeese
To date, there is no specific policy for Ohio on how parent-child relationships are to be viewed or approached when parents separate. There are places in the Ohio Revised Code which state that it’s best for children to have “continued and frequent contact with both parents,” but this falls far short of a clear statement of policy to guide the courts. Further, since most Ohio counties have adopted standard parenting guidelines that follow the every-other-weekend schedule for non-custodial parents, it’s clear that “continued and frequent contact” is insufficient to ensure that children are allowed to fully benefit from the love and guidance of both parents equally after divorce or separation.
Finding Support During Divorce
By Deb Lauren, Mindset Coach
It’s safe to say that divorce can be a messy, stressful and emotionally draining process.
The act of ending a marriage brings with it a myriad of pain, loss, uncertainty and fear. Add to that a complicated, and often short sighted, legal system and you have yourself one daunting situation. What we don’t always realize, especially when in the thick of transition, is that our emotional and physical wellbeing provide the building blocks to the bridge over those choppy waters. And knowing where you can find support to build that bridge can make the difference in how you experience, recover, and move forward post divorce.
Calling Out Bad Research on Parental Alienation
National Parents Organization is proud to collaborate with 17 other organizations in the U.S. and abroad to challenge some very bad research on parental alienation that is, unfortunately, being cited in efforts to question the reality of parental alienation. The flawed research in question was paid for by your tax dollars!
In 2015 Joan Meier, Professor of Clinical Law at George Washington Law School, and four collaborators, received a grant of more than $500,000 from the National Institute of Justice, which is part of the Department of Justice, to do research premised on the presumption that parental alienation is a “pseudo-scientific theory” that is used to suggest that “when mothers allege that a child is not safe with the father, they are doing so illegitimately, to alienate the child from the father.”
Those familiar with parental alienation and aware of the more than 1,000 books, book chapters, and peer-reviewed articles on the topic, know that parental alienation is a well-researched phenomenon that is not gender-based in the way that Meier suggests. This research was done, in fact, by highly respected scientists, including psychologists and psychiatrists. Many know, as well, from painful personal experience how damaging parental alienation can be to the children and targeted parents—fathers and mothers—who are the victims of it.
How Adversarial Divorce Contributes to Increased Parental Estrangement in the United States
As National Parents Organization focuses on shared parenting awareness and advocacy nationwide, we want to highlight another issue that is plaguing American families. Parental estrangement is a complex topic which has recently gained traction due to several articles and essays that were published over the past year. These impactful pieces in the New York Times, the Atlantic, and Aeon share information about parental estrangement and its link to alienation, divorce, and mental health. We, as a shared parenting support organization, believe that it’s important to shed light on how adversarial and high-conflict divorce can unfortunately contribute to estrangement – especially when child custody and contentious court battles are involved in the divorce process.
NPO Collaborates with PASG to Challenge Flawed Research
National Parents Organization is collaborating with the Parental Alienation Study Group (PASG) to call for the retraction of badly flawed research denying the scientific research on parental alienation.
Parental alienation is a serious form of psychological abuse that causes enormous harm to the children and parents victimized by it. More than 1,000 books, book chapters, and peer-reviewed articles have been published on the topic and there is increasing scientific recognition of the existence, causes, and effects of parental alienation. It has been the subject of documentary films, such as Erasing Family, produced and directed by Ginger Gentile.
Senate Passes Child Support Bill to Promote Parenting Time Agreements
On July 27, by a voice vote, the Senate took action to address a long-standing problem in the child support system. Senate Bill 503 PARENTS Act of 2021, sponsored by Senator John Cornyn (R-TX) and co-sponsored by Senators Bob Menendez (D-NJ) and Ben Cardin (D-MD) expands the use of federal incentive payments to states to:
develop, implement, and evaluate procedures for establishing a parenting time agreement when establishing an initial or modified child support order or a medical support order (including procedures for carrying out a parenting time agreement made prior to the establishment or modification of any such order).
Shared Parenting Makes a Summer Splash in Several States
(July 14, 2021) - There is major progress for shared parenting and equal parenting rights across America with help from National Parents Organization (NPO) and its state chapters nationwide. While the organization is excited about recent success stories, NPO leaders acknowledge that work still needs to be done in most states across America. This includes presenting more bills to lawmakers, gaining the support of elected officials, and getting them passed by the legislature.
Introducing the NPO Advisory Council
National Parents Organization is proud to announce the formation of the NPO Advisory Council. NPO employs a research-based approach to activism to reform the norms of separated parenting so that no child is deprived of a full relationship with both parents simply because the parents are not living together.
‘Research-based activism’ has two elements and our Advisory Council reflects both of these. In addition to world-leading researchers on child well-being, parental alienation, domestic violence, and child support, the Advisory Council also includes noted individuals to guide NPO to be more effective in its advocacy.